MARRIED BUT EMOTIONALLY DIVORCED

I read this somewhere so i decided to share it with you guyz. It is a TRUE STORY. It is a bit long but i did not want to cut anything out as its not my story. Here goes (excuse the typos):

Beatrice had always desired a loving relationship with her husband; that enviable relationship that is always common between campus sweethearts. "I have always longed for a loving husband & that was what mattered to me first before considering whether his wallet was fat or not", she began this day, looking worried. She actually spoke softly fighting back tears.


She said that when Okechukwu married her, she thought that she had finally got her wish. "He was all i had, my love, my life, the best thing that ever happened to me, or so i presumed. I wanted nothing else in the world then but him. I could remember the days when he used to call me on the phone & i would shout "Okey" in a loud voice. My mother would run out of her bedroom to warn me to lower my voice so that my strict father would not beat the living day light out of me, for calling a boy's name excitedly."

That goes to show how madly in love i was with Okechukwu. "Yeas i madly in love with him & all i wanted was to get married to my young & handsome lawyer whom i met as a jambite. I looked forward to the day when we would march down the aisle. We dated for 8 good years. I eventually joined okey, as i fondly called him on the same campus. He was 2 years ahead of me."

Beatrice's dream materialised when Okey paid her bride price. "I will never forget the comment my uncle's wife made on the day of my traditional wedding; "you have been all smiles", she remarked.

Beatrice was indeed glowing, very radiant & beautiful in her traditional attire. "I was barely 23 & ripe for marriage. Ripe to be Okey's wife. But i should have known better. the frown on my would be mother in-laws face was strong enough to kill a fly. She sulked as if i forced her son to ask for my hand in marriage. Maybe that was a good sign that all would not be well eventually.

The storm in Beatrice & Okey's marriage started as early as the time they were mean to be honeymooning. "That was when the realities of marriage dawned on me. i wanted to cal my poor mother but i opted not to. Mama was hypertensive. Such news would worsen her health & condition, & a divorce was inconcieviable & a taboo. I could remember her advising me that no matter what hapenned in my marriage, i should stay put & endure it. Her words still ring a bell. "Nne, no matter what happens to you, no matter how bad you are treated by your husband, stay in your marriage, don't leave. This is because such problems do fizzle out in the end. Know that with patience, one would overcome whatever matrimonial problem a woman may have. Every problem has an expiry date."

The first blow the marriage had was caused by Beatricce's in-laws, the elder sister of her husband. "I was called names but the worst happened when my husbdna's elder sister, whom i thought was the only one that liked me in the family also turned against me. She wrote to me & called me names. She never knew that her brother , my husband lost his job few months after our marriage, so that affected their monthly allowance. And without asking what exactly happened, they concluded i told him to stop the allowance."

That made me cry several times as okey did not tell his people the actual position of things. As if that wasn't enough, my husband sided with his people & began to see me as someone who brough ill luck to his house. "He reminded me how i brought the spirit of bad luck to his house & he was sacked from work. There was no name i wasn't called by the same man who told me he loved me & would do anything to make me happy as long as i remained as his wife.

After 7 years, the marriage became unbearable. Her husband made her his punching bag. "He got a job that kept him busy all day. I never complained about that but what hurt me was the fact that he would come home drunk & would beat me up mercilessly at the slightest provocation. Apart from his drinking habit, i also discovered that i had lost my husband to his bevy of girlfreinds & mistresses. If i dared ask him whether he was seeing other women, that would result in another punch. I was afraid of asking questions, afraid of even discussing with hi mas a woman would with her husband. My mind had flashed back repeatedly to that frown on my mother in-laws face on the day of my traditional wedding. Maybe the poor woman foresaw what i was going to suffer in her son's house. If i had known better, i wouldn't have found myself in this hell."

A day came when Beatrice confronted him & gave him a piece of her mind, but something terrible happened immediatley after that. FIND OUT NEXT WEEK.

NAIJA NEWS IN PICS

Loads of stuff have been happening in naija lately. I decided to bring you guyz the news in pics cos i know that it would take me forever to write down everything that has been going on. I have also included some pics of current " SUN GIRLS". To view more pictures of other "SUN GIRLS", visit www.sunnewsonline.com

The Nigerian Police Force have changed their Uniform from the all black to blue and black. Personally, i don't see how changing the uniform of the policemen would improve their performance & stop them collaborating with robbers. Instead of our president (Obasanjo) spending money on new uniforms, why not retain the old ones & use the money he used to get the new ones to pay the Police men so that the crime rate will go down in nigeria? I'm not impressed at all.

Governor Donald Duke has launched the Tinapa Project. The pic above is from the launching. The project includes a Tinapa Studio where i heard films can be made. As usual Obasanjo was there, with his big fat stomach. The man has the whole of naija in his belly.

Governor Donald Duke of Cross River state has really done alot. First he built the Obudu Cattle Ranch which from what i hear is amazing, & then this. I know of course he would be pocketing a bit of money but at least he as done a lot of things that we Nigerians would remember him for. I think he is a good example to most Governors in naija.

The picture above shows an unidentified Local Government official collecting Fuel as he tries to locate the point where a pipeline was vandalized in Lagos. He dosen't look like a local government officail right? Well, the picture shows fuel pipeline investigation, naija style!

The picture above shows Miss Goodnews Udom who is the reigning Miss Akwa Ibom & Miss Lacasera. What do they mean by Miss Lacasera? From what i heard, there is a drink in naija called Lacasera. Is she the queen of the drink or what? Well, the girl said that she goes everywhere with bodyguards because she gets "TOO MUCH" (mark i wrote it in capital letters) attention from guys. Who does she think she is? Britney spears????? Isn't it enough that we have to endure the fact that she is Miss Lacasera?????

This picture shows the girls dormitory at Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU). The dormitories have been in the news alot this days because the girls have to deal with a lot of sexual harrasment & rape from most of the guys. I feel very sorry for them. According to the news, loads of the girls have been attacked lately.

The girl in the pink top is looking at the camera as if she is going to beat up the photograper or something. The girls also live in dirty surroundings as you can see from the picture. I'm sure rats make a big part of the room furniture.

The guy in the picture above is a soldier who murdered another guy over N10 (10 naira). He entered a bus in Lagos and refused to pay the N40 bus fare because he was a soldier. The conductor of the bus told him he had to pay. The guy then payed N30 & decided not to pay the rest. An argument ensued & the soldier slapped the conductor. One of the passengers in the bus told him that he had no right to slap the conductor just because he (the conductor) told him to pay N10. The soldier turned on the passenger & stabbed him to death. Thats naija for you. Lawless!

This is a picture of today's Sun Girl. What's with the background? & didn't anyone tell her that ankle boots are not meant to be worn with the sort of dress she's wearing??? Someone call the Fashion Police!!!!

The picture above shows another Sun Girl. She's cute, don't you guys think???? I have nothing bad to say. Who agrees with me?

Ok, this is another Sun Girl. I've been trying to understand why her hands are up there then i got a brain wave! Maybe she's about to do the Matrix! What do you guys think?

This picture is just sad. This man's wife was killed by young islamists in Gombe state. I first caught the story on Chioma's blog so i checked up on it more on the internet. His wife was a teacher in a school. During an Islamic Exam test, she was the one invigilating the exam. She caught 2 boys who were cheating. One of the boys wrote an Islamic writing from the Quaran on a paper & was passing it to another boy when she caught them. The took the paper away from them and threw it away. After the exam, the boys & the class started chasing her around the school saying she descredited to Quaran. The killed her & burnt her body. She left behind her husband, a 3 yr old son & and also a 10 month old baby (with the father in the Picture). May her soul Rest In Peace. Amen.

ALL ABOUT US (AFRICA) 1

Hey everyone!! Hope you guyz have been good. I've been very ill so for sometime now, i haven't been able to update my blog & i also lost track of what was happening out there in the world. I just found out that a version on Pop Idols/American Idols is going on in our dear continent Africa. I have to admit i was very suprised but i later realised that there was nothing to be suprised about cos we have had loads of stuff happen in Africa like when Big Brother came to us. I actually never got the chance to watch it myself but i was told that it was better than Big Brother UK.
But back to the subject at hand. The show is called "IDOLS WEST AFRICA".
I know that most of you (if not all of you guyz) have heard (i'm like the only one who didn't know about it) about the show. I also found out that it has been on for a while now & that from the 1st of March, the public get the chance to call in & vote for their favourites. I've been to the site & checked out some audition videos and they were hilarious. Some we good while the others were horrible. Reminded me of American idol a lot.
24 contestants have been chosen to go through to the next stage. Here are my fav's so far:


Oluwadolapo Ogunwale


Lara George (KUSH)

Sokari Briggs

Temitayo George

Oge Chigbue

SUN GIRLS

Actually, i'm not reffering to those page 3 models on the Sun UK newspaper. I'm referring to the girls on the Nigerian Sun Newspaper. I don't know if you guyz have heard/know about the newspaper i'm talking about (in case you don't, just go to WWW.SUNNEWSONLINE.COM).

I think the big thing in Nigeria at the moment for girls is to be a Sun girl. I think its a way for the girls to have their popularity rise & a way for them to show of themselves off to guyz & get attention from them. Some people would do it for the fun of it though (i think). By the way, they do not get paid for having their pictures published in the paper.

All they have to do to have their picture in the newspaper is send in a full picture of themselves, their hobbies, their profession, height, likes, dislikes & phone number to the paper. All this (including their phone numbers) is published along side their picture.

As for the pictures, some are good while the others are just completely hilarious. When you look at some, u'll be like "what happened to all the fine gals in naija?" Personally, i think that the paper just publishes the pics without caring what the girls look like. If not that, the person who approves the pictures before they are published most be blind!! Really! Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that all the gals are wowo (ugly). Some are pretty, while the others are.........well.................. no comment. But beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, so i leave you guyz to judge. Here are pictures of some of the Sun girls. So tell me, who wowo pass????????